Do you struggle to assert your needs and feelings to others?
Do you get into conflicts with others?
Do you end up taking on other people’s problems?
Then it will do you good in learning how to safeguard yourself from others’ sh!t.
Problem Ownership
It is important to manage problems, not just with yourself but also other humans. Especially, when most part of our lives we are communicating with the other humans. You can’t really avoid communicating with humans unless you isolate yourself deep into a mountain…
You struggle with miscommunication because you don’t understand the concept of problem ownership. You stress up unnecessarily when you take ownership of other people’s problems, especially of those toxic people. Don’t you already have enough problems of your own?
It takes a lot of your time and energy when you are the one owning a problem, especially when it is not even yours to begin with.
Thus, the first step to safeguard yourself is to know who owns the problem first, in any situation you are caught in.
Humans and Their Sh!t
Let’s face it. We all struggle with personal problems such as stress, anxiety and worries about our health, finances, and whatnot. For the most part, all such problems are caused by humans. Human behaviour is by far the single largest cause of the difficulties that we experience.
Do you ever feel like it’s just one thing after another with some humans? In the past I constantly felt like I was being pulled into other humans’ drama. I didn’t know how to not get involved as the more I tried to help, the more that drained the life out of me.
If you’ve found yourself in a similar pattern, it’s important that you not let it stop you from living your life. Don’t get caught in drama that isn’t yours.
Thus, it is important to learn how to help in a way that maintains the relationships that you want with those who matter, while safeguarding yourself at the same time.
Safeguard Your Boundaries
Boundaries are essential to your well-being and in maintaining healthy relationships with humans who matter to you. You create your boundaries to identify safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards you and how you will respond when someone crosses those limits.
Otherwise, you will be taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon leading to resentment, hurt, anger, and burnout.
Without personal boundaries, self-care is hindered. When someone behaves in a way that crosses your line, you need to take care of yourself by letting them know and making that line clearer.
Thus, it is important to learn how to set and sustain your boundaries and safeguard them well.
Salvage If Not Toxic
Every relationship goes through ups and downs. Our relationships with family are often riddled with conflict and our relationships with friends and co-workers are challenging as well. A toxic relationship, however, is consistently unpleasant and energy-draining such that negative moments outweigh positive ones. Toxic relationships result in mental and emotional damage to you.
Assess the toxicity of the relationship and how much (or not) the other person matters to you. Decide if you should just walk away to safeguard you. Otherwise, if you value the relationship and the person, you may want to salvage the relationship.
Thus, it is important to learn how to work on resolving the conflicts amicably and respectfully.
You Deserve Better
All the unnecessary drama in your life can, no, should, be avoided for the simple reason that you do not deserve them.
What if you could avoid taking on other’s problems?
And you could assertively hold your ground and get your limits respected?
And you could resolve conflicts with others while maintaining the relationship?
Would that interest you?
Then it is important that you have the skillset for protecting YOU by learning to Safeguard Yourself from Others’ Sh!t
I created this course because I believe that everyone deserves to be treated with respect and not taken for granted. No human has the right to cross another human’s boundaries. The intention of this course is to prime you up to be ever ready in protecting yourself from other humans’ shit.
I wonder how soon you’ll enrol now.
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