Do you often struggle to make people see your point of view?
Do you often get caught in arguments and miscommunication with others??
Do you often just want to give up communicating at all with people?
The pain point is a bunch of human beings who impact our lives one way or another, and you can’t just simply ignore them. Unless you plan to isolate yourself in a secluded mountain and live alone forever more…
Why the Complications in Human Communication?
Do you wonder what’s going on with other people?
Sometimes things go wrong with these humans – and what do you do then?
These bunch of humans are all different from one another making the human side of communication a challenge. Like as if life itself is not challenging enough.
How do these differences come about?
The thing is, we have all sorts of information coming into our brain, thru our 5 senses. We hear, we see, we smell, we feel/touch, we taste. Now our brain processes the information in a particular way using programs it has. The brain Deletes, Distorts, and Generalises information that it deems as repetitive, irrelevant or unimportant. And nobody else has the same set of programs, the same way of Deleting, Distorting, and Generalising information.
So, what makes people different is the way their brain works that make them different. People are different because they have different programs running. To succeed in communication with any humans, it all boils down to our ability to communicate to the programs.
The Map is Not the Territory
The concept of, “the map is not the territory” refers to one of the NLP pre-suppositions.
The way our brain Deletes, Distorts, Generalises information, making each of us different. How each one of us process information and translate that information into an internal meaning is what we call our Map of our world, that creates our map of reality.
Each one of us can experience the exact same event and leave that event with a different understanding – a different map of what happened. We each have a different reality from the rest.
So, you get it – we don’t all have the same map of the world. The map is not the territory because everybody’s looking at things differently because of how our brain does things differently from everybody else.
The Importance of Human Communication
First and foremost, human communication facilitates the spread of knowledge and forms relationships between people. Human communication is based on cooperative and shared intentions. For e.g. humans communicate to request help, to inform others, and as a way of bonding. Communicating helps people to express their ideas and feelings. It also helps people to understand emotion and thoughts of the others. The outcome is either we develop affection or hatred towards others, and positive or negative relationships will be created.
Hence, human communication is the foundation of all human relationship. the importance of communication cannot be underestimated. Daily, we communicate with a lot of people including our families, our friends, our colleagues, or even strangers. You understand that we should learn how to communicate effectively to make our lives better.
There’s more to know
I run a training program called the Human Side of Project Management, where we cover these elements in a lot more detail. We teach more about understanding other humans and how to communicate with them in a way that’s best for them. We also teach many influencing skills that help individuals to make things happen with these humans that impact their lives, be it a spouse, children, a family member or even a friend.
All the programs, all the ways of communicating to the programs, all the influencing skills can’t be covered here in this blog. Although the program is targeted at Project Managers, the skills taught are equally applicable by anyone in their personal lives too.
A bit of curiosity helps you to learn. If you aren’t convinced that you’ve mastered the art of human communication, then you need to attend this exclusive free webinar to find out more about the HSPM program!
I wonder how soon you’ll register now.
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